Our loving partners may sometimes be remarkably out of touch when it comes to understanding what usually gets us in the right mood before having a truly great sex. However, instead of confining seduction to fancy restaurant dinners and bottles of wine (which might be more likely to put both of you to sleep) only, suggest that physical intimacy on any particular night is even sexier if:
1. You are touched throughout the day
A subtle lingering kiss in the hall in the morning, a fine hug, even a neck rub are all known to be helping get your head out of your office room and all the way into the bedroom. With that, if the only time you touch your romantic partner and get touched is when your significant other wants to have sex, it can be a major turnoff rather than a turn-on.
2. You get help with everyday household chores
Lovers who cook dinner, clean their apartment, check their kids' homework and, finally, take out the garbage, for instance, give you a bit of downtime. You may actually want some time to unwind in a hot bath and pamper your own self as a little reminder that you're a human too, first and foremost, not just another household manager.
3. Intimacy is planned
Both partners in love should take equal responsibility to set exact times and dates allowing them to make love to each other. What we mean here is that putting it on your calendar (among other appointments) can help you mentally get prepared for sex rather than just having it sprung on the two of you before you even have a chance to get yourselves into your home clothes.
4. Your lover comes to bed totally clean and smelling good
As simple as that. Clean means sexy!
5. Your significant other shares something really intimate
Few of those things turning on almost any of us as much as hearing our beloved person open up and talk about their feelings.
With all that in mind, you surely can't put all the responsibility for your sexual desires onto your romantic partner. In this way, you definitely have to take some of that responsibility for the libido of your own and help the person you love out a little bit. For example:
1. Talk about whatever you like
Do you rather prefer to be touched here or there but you always cringe when you are touched somewhere else? After all, do you want to make love to your partner more often? Or maybe less often? Just sit down and talk about it. Keep in mind, no one is able to read your thoughts.
2. Surprise your partner — and yourself too!
Every now and then, be sure to break out of your regular comfort zone. Become the one to initiate sex. Purchase something (or nothing) absolutely unexpected in a totally unexpected setting.
3. Keep practicing
The tissues of your girlfriend’s vulva, vagina and clitoris, together with her pelvic muscles, require regular circulation and stimulation to be at their best. That’s why practicing with pelvic floor muscle or taking up Kegel exercises, and having sex on a regular basis to improve physical arousal can significantly increase blood flow and keep your genital areas healthy and strongly responsive, improve orgasm and lovemaking in general.