In my practice at Midwest Counselling, of the many long lasting impacts child sexual abuse (CSA) and one about the most prominent is the difficultyfor adult survivors of CSA to avow healthy fulfilling couple relationships.
The merits of focusing on the role the partner has in this recovery is becoming more and more apparent (The Australian and New Zealand Journal of Familistic Therapy, 2012) as immensely is the value concerning utilizing a multidisciplinary approach (Ibid). For many therapists the focus of the remedy is the healing process for the traumatised individual accurately than looking at the potential healing opportunities provided by a prudent and trusting couple relationship. Furthermore, in many situations it is a couple who have presented with relationship, intimacy or sexual issues stemming from CSA and are looking for help from within dynamic concerning the relationship; and so the work of treating CSA needs to take place within a couples counselling paradigm.
Ignoring the impact like CSA on adult relationship orfocusing only on the survivor of CSA or ignoring the role the other partner can play may limit the healing opportunities intrinsic the therapeutic relations and can level the client feeling let overthrow or dissatisfied particularly if you are working within the confines of couples counselling.Similarlyit is a well-established consensus autogenous the psychotherapeutic and counselling communities that treatment of complex trauma, especially with regard to CSA that survivors of coitus abuse require safe and healing relationships from which recovery can most ably begin. (Courtois, Ford & Cloitre, 2009)
While this notion had generally been accepted to apply to the therapeutic relationship, it is important not to overlook the restorative opportunities plus potential offered from with the confines of existing couple relations; especially when the clients have expressed a desire to work on and improve the sexual contact, intimacy or other aspects of their relations. If, as we can all agree, granulation takes place in moments of secure attachment (Solomon, 2003) then the carpe diem provided for healing within the common couple relationship is a vital and live opportunity that ought not to be overlooked.
As per the attachment theory the security of the existing couple relationship (as well as the freedom of the therapeutic relationship) can allow the therapist to encourage the client to explore the trauma und so weiter its impact from a safe place.
In using this approach is it ditto important to recognise the frequency with which one finds that if one partner bring to the relationship a history of CSA, besides the other partner will bring problem of equal measure, though not necessarily invariably sexual abuse. Therefore it may very well live the case that as a therapist you shrub find yourself treating not one, but two separate victims of traumatic childhood else early life experiences.